those who know me know I am a huge history fan, I love learning about history but the one thing I adore most is early photographs or film, this little video has put together some bits from 1920′s and I love it, look for the unfolding car for women it’s brilliant ^_^
too poorly today for anything so here’s some comfort music,
have a great day everyone
a brilliant good morning giggle i loved this made me spit rice crispies all over my keyboard..i best go clean that up now…….
Originally posted on I choose how I will spend the rest of my life:
“A friend went to Beijing recently and was given this brochure by the hotel. It is precious.
She is keeping it and reading it whenever she feels depressed.
Obviously, it has been translated directly, word for word from Mandarin to English.
Our representative will make you wait at the airport. The bus to the hotel runs along the lake shore. Soon you will feel pleasure in passing water. You will know that you are getting near the hotel, because you will go round the bend. The manager will await you in the entrance hall. He always tries to have intercourse with all new guests.
This is a family hotel, so children are very…
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well here is another classic and just letting you all know well letting my darling rhinda know that my stuff about me3 is now up and ready, as I think she may like to read it ^_^
one of the very few women singers I ever liked she is unique, she is amazing, it’s janis joplin friends, also I kinda put another page on this little old blog o mine called stuff about me2 because I was rubbish at thinking of another title I aint put the link you just have to go find it ^_^ it’s probably right after where i put stuff about me 1 see i even gave you a clue there
mickey rooney dies at 93
I know perhaps when people say think of a hero not many would say mickey rooney, but I am not most people as I am sure you have by now realised, and to me and I hope one or two others he was one hell of a hero
what makes a hero? a ‘hero’ it’s quite a hard title to earn really isn’t it. To me mickey is a hero because I grew up and still to this day and beyond adoring all old black and white movies, it is a known fact in our house that during the course of an afternoon you will at some point here the stampede of my children running from the front room shouting ‘mum’s watching old people’s stuff again’ it is a very effective way of clearing the front room ^_^
but those old movies and yes even some of the old colour ones I adore, they bring to me another world, not one that ever really existed it’s more the presentation of an ideal world, one where people are kind and respectful, one where jonny wins the day and the girls heart because he did the right thing, a world where neighbours pull together in hard times, a world where over the rainbow really exists and a world where a good song a jolly dance and we are all happy.
To me all those films represent ‘it’s a wonderful life’ and yes I make the kids watch that one with me religiously every christmas ^_^ and part of all this magic is the wonderful mickey rooney, he had that fabulous face just to see him grin would make me smile, when he talked I listened and listened long as he wove that magic world around me, brought it to life and etched it on my memory, to me mickey is that magic along with the likes of judy garland, fred astaire, cary grant, audrey hepburn, humphrey bogart, gene kelly, I could go on but I won’t, I am sure these names and many more are familiar to everyone and yet it’s many years since any of those films they starred in have been made, yet even today their legend is so strong you are hard pushed to find someone who doesn’t recognise their names.
so to me mickey rooney is a hero, he brought magic and wonder, he brought other worlds to life and he helped many people forget their own troubles, and isn’t that one of the best types of magic anyone can experience? to be safely and magically swept away from the hardship or just mundane lives to another place and entertained in such a way that when they are landed back in reality it is somehow a little changed, for the better? or for the diehards who insist their live may well be the same I still say well for me and countless others mickey rooney was a hero, a star, and for the hour and half of each film he made he took us on a journey, and we loved every minute, and for me my life WAS better for him being in it, for his films being part of it and for his smile brightening up my world and I thank him for being that hero
goodnight god bless mickey you are and always be a hero in my eyes
warning cuteness overload 5000
recently i had a friend needed a shoulder to cry on and as always i was there to listen sooth and offer hot chocolate, but as i listened it occurred to me that her life was filled with these problems or so she thought, in reality the problem was that she was letting her past experiences overtake her life, these experiences bad as they were had taken place in her childhood and now twenty years later she could not let go of them so much that it all ruled her life now, her past had taken over the whole of her past life her present life was poisoned and her future look bleak as she continued to let the poison rule everything she thought about, it was so bad she could not even visit with her in-laws because she resented how happy they were and the love they showed for their children -her husband and his siblings - that she would boil over with resentment and ruin her relationship with them it often ended with her storming off and this resulted in arguments with her spouse.
how awful that she continued to let herself be the prisoner of these past experiences, now i know it is very difficult sometimes to see past awful things that happen and i have, as i mentioned before, had the sort of childhood that would have had many a weaker person run for the hills, even in most of my adult life i have suffered so many experiences that a lot of others would have just crumbled and many would probably consider suicide rather than live through half of what i have been through, but there is one big thing i have learnt from all of it, DO NOT LET YOUR PAST RULE YOUR FUTURE
sounds simple doesn’t it, it’s not really, really it’s very difficult when i was very young i coped by running away from home a lot in brief and no i will not divulge any details i have no wish to, suffice it to say the situation at ‘home’ or the place i lived at that point because there was in no way anything homely about it, but it was so awful i thought it was way easier to run away; i lived anywhere and everywhere from the public toilets in the town to anyone who would let me have a floor to sleep on, i lived in a number of squats -for those that don’t know a squat is simply an abandoned house which a homeless person breaks into and lives there, it made a lot of sense to me- and as some of you know i married really young, met him at 15 then 9 years zipped by
i remember quite clearly though as i got to 15 and met my first husband, i had a choice; i could live with the idea my parents were beyond evil and had majorly messed up not just my life, my body, but my brain as well because of the various experiences they had put me through i found it very difficult to think straight, it was hard to know how to communicate with people and i had severe trust issues, which i still have to this day, but i was 15 and going into my first marriage so i decided it would be a new start, from the age 15 i declared my life, my body, my mind, was exactly that; mine, and i would never ever let my parents near any of it again, my life was now mine to live and i would not let the past control any of it, i fought hard against the conditioning they had put in place and belive me that was very difficult but as soon as i found myself acting, speaking, or thinking in any way that was as a result of my parents i actively fought against it
now i am the first to admit this did in fact lead me to make some rash decisions, i found myself in some scary situations simply because i was trying to be the opposite of everything my previous life had thrown at me, but i was a quick learner and over the years i grew to recognise what was accepted behaviour and how to live in a more normal life situation, in the end of it all i am now proud of who i am as a person but more so i am happy with where i am in life and that what goes on my life is because i made the decision for it to be that way, there are still times when i catch myself even now at 48 doing or thinking something that is a direct result of my previous life though now instead of rebelling against i recognise it is there and try to find an alternative way of looking at it,
the simple fact is no matter what happens to you if it has stopped happening then go on to something else, do not let it control how you think, if you catch yourself thinking of it or you are in the pit of self-pity/despair/deep blue funk then drag yourself out of it forcefully, i find my worst time is at night because usually during the day i am too busy; i make sure my mind is fully occupied then it doesn’t dwell on things, so at night if i find myself falling into that oh god how do i carry on after everything that has happened frame of mind then i have a little trick and i do this with the kids as well it helps them if they have had a nightmares so it goes like this;-
soon as the bad thoughts creep in say no, strongly forcefully no, i will not think about that, instead i have won the lottery and it is 8 million pounds now i have 8 million to spend let’s see ok a new house a horse for my oldest then we would need stables and then……………. usually i have managed to spend around a million before i am fast alseep
and that’s it you see control, let your wishes control your thinking not your past experiences, yes shit happens it has to me more times than i care to remember but in my head is the one place that no matter what it is mine my space to think and feel and do what i want so i will not let others in i will fight to keep them out of there, now others may disagree and waffle on about counselling and other such crap i don’t believe in that i just think it makes things worse, i go with blotting it out because it’s gone i won’t let it happen again so move on, it can’t hurt me now because i won’t let it, it is in the past and i am not, i am here now and in a much better place, it has no power over me here because i will not let it have any
so next time your brain is annoying you, doesn’t matter if it’s having no money or having someone being evil towards you don’t let them in your head, keep that for you, and most certainly do not resent others just because they enjoy something you never have, it is a serious waste of your time energy and emotional stress to resent something which is not worth it,
i told my friend that even though it was difficult to see beyond what she had gone through she was to look at her in-laws with new eyes, stop seeing them as us and them, see them as people, just ordinary people who have had a life of good and bad stuff just the same as you and i, talk to them, listen to their life stories, nine times out of ten other people have also suffered but also survived horror stories of their own, don’t see them as those who have more than you, see them as they are; people,
and yes they are lucky to have a close family unit, so look at that family unit appreciate that here is one place of love in a world that sees precious few places of love, too many dysfunctional families inhabit this world, see the one family in front of you displaying love for each other as the one tiny flower struggling to shine among the weeds and help them nurture that, there will have been probably more than one occasion where this family had experienced difficulties but let’s learn from how they overcame them and stayed strong as a family.
no family is perfect and there will always be some who suffer bad stuff i know i am one, but that doesn’t mean we have to spend the rest of our lives suffering, leave it behind, shut it away, do not feed it with your bitterness, blot it out and take a deep breath
remember you survived and for that you should feel proud, you survived and yes it leaves a scar but that scar is just one part of you, so do not dwell on that scar it’s there and it represents the fact that you survived so now look to gaining control over your thoughts and make yourself a promise that you will not let the poison have any more room in your head.
i know my friend will find it difficult, i know she may never get over what happened to her, i don’t think we ever do, we just have to get to a point where we accept it happened and it is in the past, but i would like to think that from now she gains the control to distance her life now from her life then and she can actually start to live her life free from the control of her past, little steps taken often, i will keep nudging her in the right direction,
if you know of someone who needs nudging then pop round with chocolate and bring a smile to their face, each smile counts, each smile means another win against the crap that used to be there in the place of that smile, try to help quieten their minds from the nagging of the past, and though it may be one small gesture on your part to the person you help these small gestures all help take the baby steps towards regaining the control in their life
love to all
a big big thank you to my dear friends for showing my new blog-diamond dogs- support and likes etc i figured it would be best making a whole new blog for my latest adventure into making things as i didn’t want to flood this blog so thank you and please know i very much appreciate your time and support
i have loved making doggy things and plan to make more just as soon as i have enough money to go get more crystals i used that many i ran out! aahh well i wanted glitzy anyways this was just to say a quick thank you to everyone i shall now go walk my dogs
have a super day everyone and yup it’s friday woohoo just need easter holidays to hurry up i really miss my kids when they are at school/working-the oldest has now got a apprenticeship how excellent is that she is still on trial at the moment but the excellent thing is they love her and she is at a hairdressers in our home town so she doesn’t have far to travel woot and woohoo ^_^ i still miss her though but hey it’s far better she is now on the employment ladder ^_^
love to all